What the Qur’an Teaches Us About Good Treatment of Parents

We all agree that it is good to treat parents nicely. But we have little idea that how important that is. There are multiple verses in the Qur’an on this point- let’s have a look at some of these.

We all agree that it is good to treat parents nicely, hut we have little idea that how important that is. There are multiple verses in the Qur’an on this point, and sometimes Allah tells us to treat parents well immediately after asking us to worship Him alone. By mentioning the rights of parents immediately after His own right, Allah gives us clear indication about the importance of treating your parents well.

We will visit two verses from the Qur’an on this topic.

“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you (your care), say not to them [so much as], ‘uff’, and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.’” [17:23-24]

In this verse, God commands us to worship Him alone and no one else, and immediately then turns attention to behaving well with parents, especially when they became old and depend on others for shelter and their needs. God first says not to be rough with them, not to scold them. Then God advises us to further implement positive actions, and speak to them with kind words, with love and tenderness.

Things do not stop at just speaking, the words of the Quran that follow reflect the majesty of the Quran. The Quran uses very poetic and appealing phrases to bring out the best behavior from us: when it says to spread over them the wings of your tenderness with humility, it means to be extremely polite and attend all their needs with love and tenderness.

This is not the end of good treatment, as the Qur’an further asks a person to supplicate to Allah for his/her parents by saying, “oh my Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small”. This is an acknowledgment that whatever we do for our parents will not be sufficient and they are in need of Mercy from the Lord to make their life comfortable.

This is a supplication to God but at the same time, this is a reminder to a person that his/her parents who took care of them with love and tenderness when they were a child. This is very relevant at this point because this is almost the time when a person is doing the same to their own children, bringing them up with care and love. So it is essential to remember the sacrifices of parents.

It is necessary to treat parents well under all circumstances every time. But when they are in old age it is even more necessary, as explained in this second verse from the Quran.

“And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months…” [46:15] 

Here, another verse with a different emphasis. This instruction is for everyone – all parents deserve good treatment, especially mothers. The verse takes into account three different kinds of hardship endured by the mother during and after pregnancy. The Arabic word used for good treatment is Ihsan, which denotes the best treatment, and includes service, obedience, respect, and reverence.

Good treatment to parents is also emphasized by the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).

A famous Hadith of Prophet (SAW) was when a man asked the Prophet, “O Messenger of God, among the people who is most deserving of my good companionship?” The prophet replied “Your mother”, the man asked, “Then who?” The Prophet replied “your mother”, the man asked again, “then who” – “your mother” replied the Prophet. “Then who,” the man asked the fourth time, to which the Prophet replied, “then your father”.

Another famous Hadith is when the Prophet is reported to have said, “Paradise lies below the feet of your mother” (meaning to serve her, and treat her well if you desire paradise).

In another Hadith, the Prophet said, “Looking with love and respect at the face of a parent is an act of charity”. A person will get the rewards of doing charity just for looking at the face of parents with love and respect. This Hadith puts everything into perspective, and that we must realize the immense importance Allah places of treating parents well – that if just by looking at their face with love and respect is so valuable, how important must it be to treat parents well?

Whatever we do to serve our parents, it will never be sufficient to repay them for their sacrifices done for us.

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